As I settled my children and myself into this strange womanâs car, my husband took care of our luggage and rode with someone else. I was looking out the window, trying to drink everything in. âIâm not going to give poison to your kidsâ, she said while holding a lollipop that I had no idea where it had come from, interrupting my musings. âI avoid giving them refined sugarsâ, I believe I’d answered absently.